As my career tangled itself in WordPress, even though I was well known in other industries, I quickly became popular within the WordPress Community – and the target of meanies. Yep, as in the childhood bullies that plague us our whole lives.
Without any marketing or self-promotion, this site and my articles on other sites attracted attention internationally, and so did I. Living on the road full-time, my normal schedule of speaking at conferences and workshops expanded to WordCamps and WordPress-related events. With all the attention came the meanies. Between 2005-2008, a rash of meanies aimed their meanness at me. Call it jealousy, someone with a bone to pick, or people eager for a target, those years were tough as the web exploded with access to millions, and it didn’t take long for the meanies to come out swinging at any target.
I’m over it. I’m so over it, but it still hurts when years later a random search turns up one of those nasty posts, attempts to chop me off at the knees or humble me. Most of these are considered harmless, silly attempts to make me look like something I’m not, even the efforts to undermine me – for the most part they couldn’t find enough wrong with me to aim at, but it still hurts.
It hurts today.
How do I turn today’s hurt, a wound now scarred over that twinges with the wrong move, into a blog exercise?
I turn it over to you.
Your blog exercise today is to think about all the little slights that have come your way over the years, and share what you do to “get over it” and keep moving forward.
We’ve all suffered the digs, jealousy, the meanies at one time or other. I would love to live a life free of trolls, but there they are and we have to live with them.
How do you handle the little hurts that never seem to go away, especially with the ubiquitous nature of the web? Why should a narrow-minded person eager to take shots at anyone they think is “better than me” in 2007 still twinge today?
There are companies that specialize in culling the web of such meanness, as well as your personal overindulgence in sharing poorly on the web. The reality is that they can’t do much except drown it, and I’ve done a good job drowning most of these idiots, but their content is still there, waiting to be found, as I found one today by accident.
I’m fine. I have my ways. I have an amazing supportive team around me ready with hugs and tea, but what about you?
Please share your method for standing tall and keeping to the faithful path. How do you cope?