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Blog Challenge: Worst Relationship Mistake

We all make mistakes in everything we do. That’s part of learning. Over the next few weeks, I’m going to challenge you to blog about some of the mistakes you’ve made, and the lessons you learned and how these mistakes changed your life.

As usual, these blog challenges are very specific, encouraging you to dig into your head and spirit to find interesting ways of sharing who you are and what you do with your blog readers. Finding a way to incorporate them into your blog’s purpose is part of the challenge.

The first in this series of life mistake challenges is:

Blog about the worst mistake you made in a relationship.

Love gone wrong is the source of stories and songs throughout history. We all screw up when it comes to our interpersonal relationships – and professional ones. We’ve all done it. We’ve all done it the same, even though we feel like it is a unique and very personal and private event – it’s normal. It’s what you learn that makes you better at relationships in the future.

One of the earliest lessons I learned in relationships is that I thought the relationship was all about me. My needs. My wants. My life. The world revolved around ME. Trust me, I’m not interesting enough to have much of anything revolve around me, especially the whole world, and it took some hurting to understand that a relationship is about you and us, not me. A little me, but not a planet’s worth of me. The magic in a relationship is when the other person feels the same way. Their perspective of the relationship is that it isn’t about them, it’s about me.

There is a lot of good and bad that happens in a relationships, so reach down into your life’s baggage and share a story of the worst mistake you’ve made in a relationship – and the lessons you learned and how you improved the qualities of your relationships after the wounds healed.

These are published weekly and are an attempt to kick your blogging ass. They serve to challenge your thinking and efforts in blogging and blog writing. To participate, start challenging yourself now. Today. Go for it.

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15 Comments

  1. Posted August 14, 2008 at 8:22 am | Permalink

    It’s useful to have somebody else set the agenda on occasions. Also brave and honest of you to write about your relationship mistake.

    Can’t promise that I’ll take up the challenge, but hmmm! It’s given me something to work on so may surprise you.

  2. Posted August 14, 2008 at 11:10 am | Permalink

    This is really, really challenging for me.

    You see, 36 years later, I’m still in the first serious relationship that I ever had. I was going to be transferred to the west coast and she was willing to follow me with no obligations, no ties on my part. I wasn’t willing to let her do that. If she was going to follow me, there had to be ties. So, seven weeks after we met, we were married.

  3. OBA
    Posted August 14, 2008 at 11:20 am | Permalink

    Ok I am working on the Challenge as of Now. Will not be able to Post it until tomorrow though.

    It will be posted on my new blog here http://wendysreel.com

    Thanks ever so for the opportunity to particapate

  4. Posted August 14, 2008 at 9:14 pm | Permalink

    A very interesting challenge indeed. I’ve made so many mistakes, it’s hard to choose which to focus on.

  5. Posted August 15, 2008 at 2:14 am | Permalink

    This is indeed a challenge. It’s quite hard to recall a mistake without, somehow, feeling again the pain that came with it. But reflecting about it sure reminds me how valuable my current relationship is and why I should do my best not to take it for granted.

  6. Posted August 15, 2008 at 5:03 pm | Permalink

    Maybe you should invite posts from users on the wors mistakes they made in a relationship.

  7. Posted August 16, 2008 at 9:58 am | Permalink

    I’m not sure I like this challenge, Lorelle. I always thought that, barring incidental details that inevitably slip out, relationships are too sacrosanct to be written about on a publicly accessible blog. In my opinion, a private diary should be the place for soul searching of this kind.

  8. Posted August 17, 2008 at 5:09 am | Permalink

    Lorelle, my congratulations with your
    3 YEARS ANNIVERSARY FOR THE LORELLE.WORDPRESS.COM!

    Actually, I sent to you a special message about it a week ago. But your spam protection system you are so proud of simply added it to its 1,341,890 spam comments :(
    Was it one of my mistakes in our relationships? :)

  9. Posted August 18, 2008 at 7:05 pm | Permalink

    OK, Lorelle. I did it… my torrid teen romance with Pat Patterson.
    Here: Pat Patterson a Torrid Teen Tale.

  10. Posted August 19, 2008 at 1:10 pm | Permalink

    The worst I made was being commitment-phobic and pushing her away the closer she got. Instead of holding on to her, I urged her to move on…when she finally did I couldn’t believe the great girl I had thrown away!!!! So I turned to the law of attraction to find a new mate and figure out what was wrong with me!

    Part of optimizing how well the law of attraction works is being able to love ourselves first before we can properly use the LOA to have a great relationship and taking a closer look at what is programmed into our subconscious mind. I wrote a bit about it if anyone wants to check it out:

    http://lovelifeandthelawofattraction.blogspot.com/

  11. Posted August 20, 2008 at 1:37 am | Permalink

    Um Lorelle, great idea for a post but don’t you think us boys blogging about how “my ideal girl got away” might get us in trouble with the partners we now have? :)

    I like my head this shape, I’m gonna pass on this one! :D

  12. Posted August 20, 2008 at 2:02 pm | Permalink

    Wow. I picked a hard one to start with. Thank you, Lorelle. Your site has been a godsend, and I appreciate the time and effort you put forth to help others.

    My blog challenge post: Weekly Blog Challenge: Worst Relationship Mistake

  13. Posted August 21, 2008 at 11:13 am | Permalink

    @ Ed Francis:

    I doubt it will get you in trouble unless you are prone to trouble naturally. :D Did I say that the relationship HAD to be a love interest? Maybe not. Maybe it’s a friend or family member. There are all kinds of relationships we have in our lives and a lot of dumb things we do. Bet you have a few up your sleeve that your readers could learn from. :P

  14. kindredspirits1960
    Posted September 16, 2008 at 3:33 pm | Permalink

    Lorelle thanks for the challenge it was good therapy for me and I published my blog post on Worst relationship mistakes on my blog at blogspot divorcedbutalive

  15. Posted October 13, 2008 at 9:13 pm | Permalink

    nice post..

    well, relationships are two way streets.. and understanding and communications are the keys.. i reckon


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